Kindness Is Magic

Kindness Is Magic

Kindness is a subject near and dear to our MossyBrain hearts. We believe it is an underrated, yet dynamic force in this world.

Receiving kindness can turn your day around, restoring your faith in the goodness of people. It can remind you that you’re not alone, and that you are important.

It can also be humbling to realize that we all need to receive from others sometimes. If we’re lucky, we become part of a beautiful cycle of giving and receiving kindness.

Showing kindness helps you open your eyes to the world around you and focus on something other than yourself.

It allows you to walk a little taller, convinced that your actions matter and you can positively impact the world around you.

We believe in the power of kindness, whether we are the givers or the receivers.

Kindness Makes Creativity Even Better

Ricky Gervais created a mockumentary-style show called Derek that came out in 2013. Derek (played by Gervais) is a caregiver in a British nursing home with an intellectual disability and an immense heart. It is a dramedy that, if you give it a chance, will having you crying and laughing and loving the whole cast. There is one scene in which Derek tells the camera, “Kindness is Magic,” and when we heard it, Ben and I latched on to that phrase for its powerful simplicity and truth.

In this MossyBrain community, we want to encourage kindness as we interact with each other. Others’ creations may not be your cup of tea; no problem! You don’t have to explain to them what you don’t like about it. You can move on with your life, and genuinely appreciate the fact that they were brave enough to share. Here’s the beauty of creating: there are so many people out there, all with different tastes and sensibilities. The nature of creativity means there is no one standard to which we must all adhere. A creation that I may not like can be profound and moving to another person. We want to facilitate an atmosphere of appreciation, encouragement, and respect.

Whatever you create, it will not be for everyone. To create is to be vulnerable. If you’ve ever made anything you know that sharing it with others can be terrifying. Creativity is not for the faint of heart; it takes courage.

Haters Gonna Hate…

In this age of the internet, we have instantaneous access to all the information we could want, which also comes with an endless supply of trolls, opinions, and criticism. The internet encourages excessive amounts of armchair critics, who aren’t actually doing anything, but don’t like what they see others doing.

Now don’t get us wrong; criticism isn’t all bad. Constructive criticism is important and healthy, if it comes from a trusted source. But much of what we see online does not fall into this category, and we want to discourage widespread and hasty criticism. Most people don’t think of the real person on the other side of their comment.

People come up with many excuses for unkindness. They don’t want to be taken advantage of, they don’t want to be fake, they’re just “keeping it real.” You can be honest and true in a way that considers others’ feelings. Be wise, be authentic, but also – be kind. You don’t have to be real at the expense of being kind. It is possible to be all three, simultaneously.

The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule is a cliche’ but there is something to putting yourself in another’s shoes and treating them as you would want to be treated. I understand how hard this can be, especially for those who did not experience many examples of kindness growing up but, this is your one life, and you get to decide how you live now. Will you spread hardness and self-preservation, or kindness and positivity?

We understand it’s not always easy to show kindness – especially if you were treated less than kindly. I try to think of it this way: because I believe in goodness and how transformative it can be, I want to be kind. It’s not just about how it affects others, it’s for myself- it’s who I want to be.  When I am treated poorly and I respond in kind, I am giving that person a power over myself by acting in a way I don’t want. I want to remain true, regardless of others’ behavior.

Yes, this is easier said than done. It takes intentionality, patience, and even practice. It can be really hard to live this way. But guess what? We can do hard things. If we all understood that kindness is not weakness, the world would be a better place.

The Magic at Work

Not only does kindness improve the world around you, it leads to more peace, health, and contentment within. There are numerous benefits to our bodies and minds.

Kindness stimulates the production of serotonin, like medical antidepressants do. This feel-good chemical heals your wounds, calms you down, and contributes to feelings of well-being and happiness.

According to research from Emory University, there is a phenomenon called the “helper’s high,” which means that when you show kindness to another person, your brain’s pleasure and reward centers light up, as if you were the recipient of kindness instead of the giver. 

Even just witnessing kindness produces oxytocin which can help lower blood pressure, improve heart health, and increase self-esteem and optimism. When you show kindness, you can positively affect those who witness it, and oftentimes, they will go on to show kindness as well.

Kindness is contagious; it can expand like seeds dispersed by the wind, unseen and widespread. Much of the time, we have no idea how our kindness has impacted the world around us. All we know are the little seeds that have germinated within us, and what goodness has sprouted as a result.

Jessica Beresh is a blogger and co-founder of MossyBrain. Along with her husband Ben, their 4 kids and their sweet puppy Charlie she resides in Broken Arrow OK. She is a 9 on the Enneagram, greatly enjoys drinking Chai (hot or iced) and loves rainy days.

Connect with her on Facebook or jess@mossybrain.com.

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Free PDF – Top 10 Ways to Keep Your Creativity Flowing

Free PDF – Top 10 Ways to Keep Your Creativity Flowing

Creativity is life-giving. We all need inspiration to keep creativity flowing after a long day when all you want to do is binge Netflix with a tub of ice cream.

MossyBrain has come to your rescue!!!

We want you give you everything you need to turn on the creativity tap on demand. We’ve compiled a great starter list of ideas and activities to jump-start your creative juices just when they’re ready to shut down. It’s all included in a PDF called Top 10 Ways to Keep Your Creativity Flowing. If your creativity is a muscle that needs exercising, following the items on this PDF list is like bench pressing 450lbs. Your brain  WILL get CREATIVE. Fast.

Just sign up below and we’ll send you this PDF.

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MossyBrain loves you and wants you to live your most creative life. By signing up below, you’ll not only get the Top 10 Ways to Keep Your Creativity Flowing; we’ll also sign you up to receive the MossyBrain Newsletter. It will deliver creativity inspiration, hacks, news and fun directly to you inbox.

Don’t wait- sign up and get creative today. And when it all starts happening, let us know how it goes on Facebook, Twitter, in the comments or by emailing creation@mossybrain.com.

Ben Beresh is a designer, filmmaker and co-founder of MossyBrain. Originally from Niagara Falls, ON, he now happily calls Broken Arrow OK home, along with his wife Jessica, four kids and dog Charlie. Ben likes to have a good time, all the time (Enneagram 7), as well as eating all types of sandwiches.

Connect with him on Facebook or ben@mossybrain.com.

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Pass The Creativity, Please!

Pass The Creativity, Please!

Here at MossyBrain, we love Thanksgiving. This holiday gives you ample opportunity for creativity and fun. However, with all the festivities come inevitable family get-togethers, and we readily admit those can have potential to breed tension and difficult conversations. Gathering a wide range of personalities, ages, backgrounds, and politics into one room is bound to set the proverbial table for possible conflict.

Have no fear! You’ve come to the right place… We’re going to help you avoid that tension with some festive and hopefully conflict-free Thanksgiving ideas:

Stick to tame and non-controversial conversation topics

Some safe conversations topics are: the weather, sports, how many hours of vigorous gardening it would take to burn off all the calories you are consuming, travel, the state of your elderly relatives’ health(they could go on and on about this), entertainment, and food(Ben would specify sandwiches for optimal conversation.) Tell jokes! Obviously, keep away from the political or offensive ones… Here’s a little example of a Thanksgiving-themed joke: What kind of music did the Pilgrims like? Plymouth Rock! You’re welcome for that.

Get out the Pictionary and Charades

Games are always a sure bet to keep things fun and conversation light. Spice these games up with creative categories such as:

  • Activities You Do with Gloves On
  • The Muppets
  • Blueberries
  • The Enneagram
  • Musical Genres of the Eastern Caribbean

There are so many to choose from; the sky’s the limit! Just try to avoid the super competitive and intense games like Risk, Monopoly, and flag football. You get the idea- the goal is for everyone to have fun and walk away intact.

Show Interest in Others

Some of you may only see a lot of your relatives once or twice a year; that creates a great opportunity to catch up and learn something new about them! People light up and come alive when discussing something they’re passionate about. Your curiosity about what lights them up can lead to some of the best conversations of the day. Ask insightful questions like, “If you had unlimited resources, what activity would you engage in?” You will make a lasting connection; kindness is magic!

Reminisce

Sometimes just reminding others of shared experiences can lighten the mood and encourage bonding. Tell funny stories from your youth, ask for clarity from older family members about the past, and reminisce together about years gone by. Don’t look for offense. Make sure you can laugh at yourself when embarrassing or incriminating stories surface.

Pie

If all the above suggestions fail, and someone insists on being confrontational or controversial, shove your face into a pie. Any pie will do, but the cream pies are the most satisfying to smash in a face. Pumpkin would be disappointing. This tactic is a last resort, but is sure to steer the conversation away from politics or religion or why Ted doesn’t have a job. The new conversation topics might be hushed questions about your mental health, but hey! No arguments, right?

These ideas should just get you started. Think outside the box and let your creative flag fly this Thanksgiving. With these activities and your creative brains working, this is sure to be a fun and peaceful holiday with your family.  Let us know in the comments how you plan to let creativity shape your Thanksgiving festivities!

Jessica Beresh is a blogger and co-founder of MossyBrain. Along with her husband Ben, their 4 kids and their sweet puppy Charlie she resides in Broken Arrow OK. She is a 9 on the Enneagram, loves rainy days and drinking Chai in any form.

Connect with her on Facebook or jess@mossybrain.com.

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